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H. Scott Clemens, MA, MPsy - NVC Dallas

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I have been learning, living, and practicing Nonviolent Communication (NVC) since 2007, as well as providing NVC-based services since 2010.

I first became aware of NVC through my sociological interest in the field of conflict and peace. With NVC, I experienced a profound change in the way I communicate and relate to others. I have devoted considerable time and effort to learn NVC in a way that I hope others trust, and see as corresponding with the vision of Marshall Rosenberg (NVC founder) and the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC.org)

Early in my journey with NVC, I chose to pursue learning and practicing NVC based on the guidelines and recommendations from the CNVC. I made this choice because I wanted to have a broader sense of connection with the NVC community, and I wanted to foster trust in others around me, based on competency and proficiency.

Knowing NVC

The CNVC encourages an in-depth learning and knowledge of the theories, concepts, and processes of NVC. Therefore, I ensure that I can demonstrate and apply all of the following:

  • 26 key differentiations/distinctions in NVC
  • NVC model, with its parts, components, choices, and requests
  • 12 principal NVC processes
  • Additional processes related to NVC Mediation and Enemy Image Processing

Because I wanted to make sure I understand and apply NVC in a way that might be recognized by other NVC trainers and facilitators with experience, I have learned and practiced NVC by:

  • Receiving over 300 hours of NVC training, including a 9-day Intensive International Training (IIT)
  • Receiving in-person training from 9 different CNVC Certified Trainers, including Marshall Rosenberg (NVC founder)
  • Attending 5 multi-day retreats over the course of more than a year, specifically designed by CNVC Certified Trainers to develop new trainers
  • Participating in NVC communities in Texas, Washington, and Oklahoma with other experienced NVC trainers and facilitators
  • Living in an NVC community with others living NVC for over a month.
  • Receiving recommendations from 4 different CNVC Certified Trainers, communicating trust in my NVC knowledge and experience
  • Participating in the CNVC Certified Trainer Program, completing all the requested objectives (though, as of yet, still have not received confirmation of certification)

Living NVC

The CNVC also encourages not just knowing NVC, but living NVC as well. To that end , since 2007 I have been:

  • Living NVC as a daily, moment-to-moment practice
  • Using NVC as one of the primary foundations of my communication
  • Applying NVC thought and principles in my personal and professional life
  • Dedicating my life to creating social change so people experience a more empathetic flow of communication and a shared use of power.
  • Building an NVC community in Dallas, Texas, through practice groups, workshops, and one-on-one support

"Teaching" NVC

Finally, based on one's knowledge of and commitment to living NVC, the CNVC encourages supporting other people's learning of NVC. To that end, since 2010 I have been:

  • Creating and facilitating over 700 hours of NVC group learning processes
  • Providing over 550 hours of individualized support in others learning NVC
  • Serving as the caretaker and primary facilitator of the Dallas NVC Practice Group

Social Change

The CNVC also emphasizes individuals choosing to focus on particular areas or contexts to create social change. Therefore, in addition to working with individuals and groups supporting their learning, I have spent almost a decade in the field of conflict resolution, as well as working with organizations, communities, and neighborhoods. While I share in CNVC’s desire for more learning of NVC, I have found utilizing and applying NVC skills/principles (“being NVC”) is often how I create the most change in the areas on which I focus.

With NVC, in the field of conflict and peace:

  • I have been providing services related to conflict resolution and management since 2010
  • NVC serves as the foundation for my communication in mediation
  • The NVC principles of empathy, vulnerable honesty, the give-and-take flow of communication, and shared-use of power serve as the basis of my facilitation in mediation
  • NVC has helped me to mediate and facilitate conflict even there is significant emotional “intensity”

At the same time, because I have a sense of respect for the field of conflict and want the trust of others in that field, I also am a:

  • Certified Conflict Management Specialist, with supervised internship (900+ hours of training or 25 credit hours)
  • Credentialed Advanced Mediator (over 140 mediations and conciliations)
  • Trained mediator in the State of Texas (required 40 hours of training in Texas)
  • Trained family mediator in the State of Texas (additional 24 hours of required training)

With NVC, I have also worked with organizations and communities, helping with organizational development:

  • Using the principles of NVC with organizations/communities to help create more choice, more voice, more equality, and a greater sense of shared-use of power in their environments
  • Supporting leaders in development of perspectives and skills that align with NVC

Because I have a sense of respect for organizations and want the trust of others when working with organizational development, I also have:

  • Previously served as leadership and “managed” teams in organizations for over 10 years
  • I have additional education in sociology focused on organizations.
  • While learning how to study and help, organizations I had my work supervised by others with more experience.

Education

Because I care deeply about the people I serve and want to ensure that I can care for their growth and wellbeing, I have spent over eight years in school, more broadly studying the “human condition,” in ways that align with my views of the NVC principles.

With sociology:

  • I have studied sociology (bachelor’s and master’s) so that I could participate in the broader field of conflict and peace.
  • I have aligned myself with the Verstehen (Ger. “to understand”) tradition of sociology, which seeks an empathetic understanding of human beings and their actions, based on their point of view.

Additionally, I identify with the “interactionist” perspective of sociology, which I see as aligned with the NVC perspective of the world. The interactionist perspective states:

  • our social world is created through interaction with others
  • language and thought collectively shape our interactions and the world
  • and conversely, our interactions with people shape our language, thought, and action

I also purposefully sought out training in the field of humanistic and person-centered psychology (master’s degree), because it was the initial basis for NVC:

  • The person-centered approach says that what is necessary for an individual to grow/change, is an empathetic understanding in a relationship that is experienced as authentic
  • Carl Rogers (person-centered founder) was Marshall Rosenberg’s mentor
  • Marshall acknowledged deep gratitude to Rogers for his contribution to his work
  • I am trained as a person-centered counselor, and in “counseling” I exclusively focus on listening to others empathetically, in a way that they experience as authentic